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31 | What Do You Do When a Friend Moves Away (other than cry, of course)? - featuring Michelle Dallas

There’s nothing quite like finding THAT friend - the one you have so much in common with, the one you can be completely yourself with, the one your husband and your kids love, too. When you’re lucky enough to find that friend, you just want to hold on forever, but that’s not always the way life goes.
It’s a real bummer when a true friend moves away, but that doesn’t mean the friendship is over. It really doesn’t have to end, but it does have to change.
What will the new, long-distance friendship look like? Will you talk weekly? Will you visit one another? Will you still celebrate life’s big milestones together?
Join Michelle Dallas and me for a conversation about what we did when she moved away and how, all these years later, we’re still successfully navigating our long-distance friendship.
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30 | How to Start and Nurture a New Friendship as an Adult - featuring Jenai Eustache

“Look, Honey! Our new friends just walked in!” I’m still not exactly sure what made my friend, Jenai, think that when we first encountered one another at a local winery. Was she simply trusting her gut? Was it discernment? Was it something else? Whatever the case, I’m glad she went with it, moved a bit closer, and struck up a conversation.
 
That first conversation between strangers at the winery was the start of something special. Over the next few months, there were shared text messages, goofy Instagram videos, baby christenings, family dinners, couples’ dates, birthday parties, prom send offs, more wineries, and even a choir rehearsal hangout as we nurtured our new friendship. We covered a lot of friendship ground in a short period of time, building trust and authentic connection each step of the way.
 
Making new friends and nurturing new friendships as an adult isn’t easy, but it’s possible and beautiful when everything aligns just so - when you meet the right person, at the right time, in the right place, and when you share a mutual openness to genuine friendship.
 
Join Jenai Eustache and me for a discussion about making new friends and nurturing new friendships.
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Want More Episodes About Making New Friends? Check out Episode 11 | Making New Friends - Airport Edition - featuring Kinnari Patel.
 
 

29 | Boundaries - What They Are, Why We Need Them, and How We Establish Them - featuring Ashley Cook

Do you often feel angry, sad, frustrated, annoyed, drained, confused, or just…some kind of way when you interact with a certain friend or friends? Maybe you need to check your boundaries.
Boundaries are the physical, mental, emotional, and other limits that protect our personal space and define how we interact with others. They help us feel safe as individuals in all areas of our lives. They help us protect the people and things that are important to us, including our finances, our time with family, our self care - the list goes on and on. 
 
How do you know you need a boundary? I’ll give you a hint. Pay attention to that icky or uncomfortable feeling you have after you interact with someone. Take note of the confusion you feel when you're together, then do something about it. 
 
Join Ashley Cook, Associate Marriage Family Therapist (AMFT133670), and me for a talk about boundaries - what they are, why we need them, and how we establish them. Why? Because healthy boundaries are a huge part of maintaining healthy friendships and protecting personal peace.
 
Additional Resource:
Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Stay Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
 
Other Episodes Referenced in This Episode:
1. Episode 7: "We Were on a Break! How Two Friends Grew Apart...and Back Together, Part 1 - featuring Wendy Alleyne"
2. "We Were on a Break! How Two Friends Grew Apart...and Back Together, Part 2 - featuring Wendy Alleyne"

28 | Thankfulness Isn't Just for Thanksgiving - It's a Big Part of Healthy Relationships - featuring Alberta Curtis Minters

What does it mean to be thankful? Where does thankfulness come from? And, how does having a heart of thanksgiving impact our friendships, our other relationships, and our lives?
Thanksgiving isn’t just a holiday. It’s a mindset, an attitude, a way of life. We all have ups and downs. Some have more ups than others. Some have more downs. Unfortunately, that’s just how life goes. But what if being thankful for even the small things somehow leads to us having more to be thankful for…more meaningful friendships, more peace, and more joy?
Join me for a heartwarming conversation with Alberta Curtis Minters, who is not only my mother-in-law, but also the most thankful, most positive person I know. Hear for yourself how having a heart of thanksgiving and a positive attitude has helped her navigate all kinds of situations, from disappointment as a young woman to life with an overly opinionated daughter-in-law (that would be me - EEK!).
See you on The Friendship Tour!
 
NOTE:
If you like this episode, you’ll love the following episodes:
Episode 9 | Faith-Building Friends - featuring Theresa Johnson
Episode 13 | Somebody Prayed for Me - and Those Prayers Got Through! - featuring Ashley Smith

27 | Alone for the Holidays? Maybe You Don't Have to Be.

It’s almost the start of the holiday season! It’s the most wonderful time of the year…but not for everyone. The holidays can be full of love and laughter for some, and a bit lonely for others. If you’re alone for the holidays, and you don’t want to be, check out this episode. I’ve shared some of my favorite ways to spend the holidays when I’m away from loved ones, including:
Serving others
Hosting my own holiday celebration
Traveling
If you happen to have family and/or friends with whom to spend the holidays, count your blessings! Then, listen to this episode for a few ideas on how you can spread a little extra love in your community this holiday season.

26 | My Best Friend Has Another Best Friend! Now What??? - featuring Lauren Gray and Tolibah Davis

Let's be honest. It can be tough to hear that your best friend has another best friend. Why is that even necessary? She already has YOU! Still, it happens, and it can honestly be a great thing if you know what to do and what not to do…so you're not just keeping the peace, but thriving as a friend group.Join Lauren Gray, Tolibah Davis, and me as we navigate the friend-in-law experience. We talk about the potential for jealousy, remembering whose turf you're on, and so much more...because it can be difficult to bring different friends together! We promise you it can be done, though.Next Steps:1. Leave a written review on Apple Podcasts.2. Subscribe to The Friendship Tour Podcast.3. Share the podcast with a friend!Related Episodes:Episode 1 - What is a True Friend? - featuring Lauren GrayEpisode 15 - MOMS! Want Your Kids to Have Friends? Show Them How! - featuring Lauren Gray

25 | Do You Know a Military Spouse? You Should! They Make the BEST Friends! - featuring Tameco Brannon

What makes military spouses such great friends? For starters, they lead with trust. In addition, they’re usually more than willing to help others. Why? Because they know what it feels like to need help themselves. Another plus? They tend to be incredibly adventurous and a lot of fun.
I learned so much about friendship from one of the best military spouses out there -  Tameco Brannon. To have a friend like her for a season would have been great. I really lucked out, though, and got her for a lifetime.
Join Tameco and me for a conversation about how great friendships with military spouses can be…and let’s see if there’s anything we can apply to friendship outside of the military population.

24 | BONUS-Veterans Day Tribute

Veterans Day is a federal holiday in the United States - a day set aside to honor our veterans and thank them for their service.
I happen to know a lot of veterans. They are my family. They are my friends. Today, I just want to say thank you to all of them.
I hope you’ll thank a veteran, too. This life we live wouldn’t be possible without them.

23 | POLITICS! How to Talk Donkeys and Elephants without Losing Your Friends - featuring Dr. Bryan Curtis

Some say politics don’t belong in polite conversation. Maybe that’s true. Or, maybe we just need some ground rules when it comes to discussing politics with friends.
Check out this episode with Dr. Bryan Curtis for tips on how to discuss politics without losing friends.

22 | I Made a Bad First Impression - Can We Still Be Friends? - featuring Tiffany Hurt

They say you never get a chance to make a first impression, but what happens if you blew it? What if you said the wrong thing, did the wrong thing, or just looked at someone the wrong way? What if you didn’t look friendly, and the vibes were off? Can you still be friends? Can you bounce back from a bad first impression? The good news is…YES, you can! But it takes some work.
Join Tiffany Hurt and me as we discuss our friendship’s rocky start, the real reasons behind it, and how we bounced back from our initial bad vibes to become the friends we both needed and wanted at various seasons in our lives.